Are you interested in reducing stress? Would you like
to achieve more while doing less? Did you know that by consistently
applying one basic principle, you can turn a stress-filled
tension-packed life into a relatively stress-free, balanced life? You
will be far more productive, and find more fulfillment.
If you
think it is a contradiction in terms to say that you can achieve more
by doing less, think again. Have you ever noticed how your performance
often improves when you stop trying so hard? For example, you are in an
important business meeting and for some reason you just know that
things are going to work out. You let go of struggling to get your
point of view across and you trust. Uncannily, your colleagues start
asking for and listening to your opinion, and things go smoothly. Or,
you are in a tennis match or out on the golf course, you play
exceptionally well, and as you look back at the experience, you realize
that during that experience you stopped thinking and started flowing.
It all seemed so easy!
In these two examples, you achieve more by
doing less. And in fact, the peak experiences of our lives, the moments
where we really shine, typically are experiences in which we feel like
we are re doing very little or nothing at all. Instead, life is
happening through us. The quality of effortlessness is what makes peak
experiences special: a lot is happening, but we are the instrument, not
the doer.
Peak experiences are moments of flow or of being in the
zone. The effortless flow quality of peak experiences is always
accompanied by a sense of profound pleasure and total clarity.
For
most of us, peak experiences are the exception rather than the norm. We
would like to feel effortless more often, and we are fascinated by
people who seem to be masters of flow, who have learned how to manifest
that flow in what they do. Think of Tiger Woods. Despite the enormous
challenges inherent in his situation, he almost always looks composed,
and his body is a picture of fluid grace. He knows that even in the
face of intense demands, deep relaxation is the key to his success. For
example, in an interview several years ago, Tiger Woods described how
he worked for years to achieve a lighter and lighter touch with his
golf club, because that delicacy of touch was the key to his
extraordinary control. He focused his attention on relaxing his fingers
and arms to feel more deeply and focus more effectively in order to
achieve at higher levels.
Most peak performers focus on
maintaining a certain inner state, a state of deep physical relaxation
or effortlessness, as key to their success. Effortlessness is a
physical feeling that combines deep physical relaxation with a calm
mind and pointed focus. Peak performers know that they cannot achieve
at high levels without this feeling. They make cultivating this
physical feeling priority number one, and let everything else take
second place. They achieve more because they refuse to sacrifice their
inner calm to achieving any goal.
The reason most people fail to
perform at their peak is that they focus too much on what they have to
accomplish, and too little on how they feel inside as they go about
accomplishing things. Since they pay so little attention to their inner
state, they end up feeling wound up with everything they have to do,
from the moment they get up in the morning till they get home. They
assume that that is the price they have to pay for what they have to
accomplish. But the truth is the opposite!
The more stressed we
feel, the more we achieve at a level far below our real potential. We
live by rules that generate the opposite of an effortless and
successful lifestyle. If you dare to stop making achievement at all
costs your god, and instead commit yourself to an effortless lifestyle
as the foundation from which you approach achieving, then you will
attain greater success. You will be following in the footsteps of
masters who know that high levels of achievement depend on high levels
of inner composure, and that the secret to success is learning to make
physical, mental and emotional relaxation the basis for achievement.